Friday, March 16, 2007

The favorite one

As I was driving to work, the DJ on the radio was discussing about 'favoritism', be in in office, school or even among family members. Hehehe, it seems like it was a favorite (pun intended) matter of contention for a lot of people, as everybody has some stories to share about it.

We always perceive someone as having a deal better than us. At work, at school, even our own family. The boss prefers someone over the rest of the staff, the teachers do so too. Even some siblings felt that their parent love the other brother/sister more that the other. Maybe rightly so. In some cases there are blatant show of favoritism. But sometimes the line is not so clear.

My friend once quipped that being the middle child means that at times he felt left out. He always feel that the parents shower more love and affection to either the first or the youngest child. Being the first child myself, I don't really see it that way (maybe I'm biased). But then again, I might be wrong. I was given a car by my parents, so did Angah and the youngest one while Uda just got a bike. Hmm... favoritism at work?

Then again, if I discuss the matter with my mum, she would say that Uda's study loan was settled fully by her, while all of us pays our education loan on our own. So who got the raw end of the deal? (Most) parents do not discriminate among their children or favor one over the other. Its just that our perception might be a little bit skewed. We tend to compare, and suddenly we feel we have the shorter end of the stick. Maybe without realizing it, deep down inside we are creatures of envy. End of discussion. Hahaha...

I am forever thankful for all I've ever got in this world, even if I might never fully understand the reason behind it.

1 comment:

Meni said...

the favourite one...

mungkin 'bias' kerana tidak semua mampu merasa apa yang orang lain di sekeliling rasa. For u, as the eldest, maybe tak penah rasa diabaikan. hmm.. lucky you...

Me, as the middle child, dulu memang tak puas hati kerana 'pilih kasih'. But as the time goes by, i start to realize that my mum and dad tak penah nak bezakan 'kasih' cuma i'm not so lucky to be born neither as the eldest nor the youngest.

apa yang i merepek ni... apa2 pun, kerana kekurangan ini, i membesar dengan the other strong advantages. Hmm.. on the other hand.... LUCKY ME!!!!

ehehe...

p/s: Tidak pernah akan ada manusia yang sempurna, kan..?